Blowing Him Away!

Suzy writes:

This is very embarrasing but when I am about to orgasm I keep breaking wind and often feel as though I am going to mess myself. I do not orgasm as a result of intercourse and can only do it through manual or oral stimulation. When I know that I am going to break wind, I tell my husband to stop and the moment is then lost. Am I alone? I can't bring the subject up with friends and my husband is starting to loose patients with me. He says it's OK but it doesn't feel right.

Yin's Answer

I can understand why this must be really embarassed about this as it is a bit of a taboo subject- and not something you are likely to have discussed with your friends. However it is actually more common than you may realise.

When you orgasm your whole body relaxes and this can also mean that you lose control of the muscles in your bottom and your bowels. Although not everyone may suffer from your problem everyone will experience the feeling of complete relaxation.

The reason you break wind may be due to the fact that you have a lot of excess gas waiting to escape. This could be related to your diet. Eating a lot of vegetables, bread and even drinking alcohol can mean you have more flatulence. It can also be a sign of a condition such as Iriitable Bowel Syndrome- the symptoms of which can be treated with medication or specially devised diet.

I suggest you talk to your doctor about this- it may feel embarassing but he/she will have heard it all before. You will feel so much more relaxed once you know what's going on and have learnt how to control it.

Yang's Answer

Oh dear I totally sympathise with you- but don't worry it isn't as unusual as she might think. I once knew a girl who wet herself everytime she came and some people make the strangest noises when they reach climax...it's all down to the feeling of total release that an orgasm gives you.

Even though you know you're not alone I'll bet still aren't totally at ease with this. Therefore I agree with Yin and would suggest a trip to the doctors. He might be able to check you over and find a simple explanation for your excess wind.

Another suggestion would be to try and teach yourself to control your body more during orgasm. You can do this when you're on your own. Make yourself comfortable when you're in the house alone and masturbate until you almost reach climax then stop and relaz for a few seconds to gain focus. Then continue towards orgasm while concentrating on controlling your bottom at the same time. If you do this alone then you will feel less embarassed about breaking wind and feel able to let yourself climax without stopping. You could also try different positions and see if there are ones that are more likely to make you break wind than others- a lot of women can feel like they may break wind whilst in the doggy position for example.

Try not to let this get you down. There are solutions out there. It's just a case of learning about your body and how to control it. In the mean time try not to take it too seriously, just relax and try and enjoy sex!